Generational Strongholds

Every generational curse, is supported by a generational sin. Sin in families are passed on from generation to generation, if the sin and the believe systems behind it are not identified and uprooted it becomes a strong hold. The dictionary defines a stronghold as “a place where a particular cause or belief is strongly defended or upheld”

Generational sins are supported by wrong family believe systems that are also passed on from generation to generation. This believe systems, are most of the times part of our culture and are incompatible with scripture. Since sin is relational i.e. how we relate with God, ourselves and others this believe systems revolve around relationships and are deeply rooted in lies, the antidote is genuine repentance. Children born in these families are born predisposed to continue with these believe systems, in fact there is emerging scientific evidence that shows that some of this predispositions are passed on in our DNA.

 I cover some common strongholds, below

The Strong Hold of Jezebel

Probably the most prevalent lie in our generation and the west is that women can and should lead the home.  For this believe system to be sustainable, families and cultures under the Jezebel strong hold have created a narrative to normalize this lie. For a family to be set free, the root believes systems have to be understood and the lies replaced by truths.

“For every lie you have experience, you need to experience the truth 15 times”

How it starts

Females from homes where the man was passive develop this ideas and pass them down to their children, mostly covertly. Although the female has no choice but to take the reins.The minute she does, Satan’s entire kingdom comes to help her, this is because there are two centers of competing authorities in the home. Unless there is separation and resolution of the underlying power struggle and issues, the woman develops the traits of the biblical Jezebel.

Most women (especially those with father wounds), until they have experienced godly patriarchal leadership by default don’t trust a man’s leadership, therefore they can’t submit and will not change.

Women from these homes in order to rein illegitimately have to develop some bad abilities

• Manipulation
• Gossip
• Anger
• Gas lighting
• They lose their femininity and develop masculine traits
• Triangulation and flying monkeys

In order for Men to survive in this environment they develop these characteristics

• Appeasement
• Fear of conflict, because of the consequence i.e. anger
• Withdrawal
• Addiction as a form of escapism
• They lose their masculinity

Girls brought up in these homes

• Have a distrust of a man’s godly authority.
• Struggle to submit in marriage
• Manipulation, anger and gossip

 Boys brought up in these homes

• Hate for women or become codependent i.e. idolize women either extremes
• Mostly hate conflict
• Cannot lead or make decisions
• Gossip
• Are emasculated
• Develop feminine traits

The strong hold of Unforgiveness

There is no room for forgiveness in this family. Mistakes are fatal, and are accompanied by an inability to ask for forgiveness

Families under this strong hold will have stories of unforgiveness from generation to generation i.e. broken relationships with business partners, marriages and siblings. Normal families make mistakes, fight and reconcile, but in this one, arguments and disagreements drag on for years sometimes ending up in court. There is never a resolution, but constant fighting and stories of retaliation and inability to forgive and ask for forgiveness.

The stronghold of Addiction

Sex/Drugs/Alcohol/Porn addiction affect generations. If you father or mother struggled with it, chance are you will struggle with it. Most addictions are developed as a coping mechanism for escaping difficult situations. Families who avoid healthy conflict or do not resolve underlying issues develop addicts, who look for external stimulus  as an escape from the problems they are avoiding.

The stronghold of religion

Religion is an emphasis on rules rather than relationship. Do’s and Don’ts that don’t have an  end purpose of strengthening relationships only put children in this families in bondage. The end result is always rebellion and mistrust.

The stronghold of manipulation and control

Parents or members of a family develop a God complex , and decide to dictate how others in the family are supposed to dress, their careers and who they should relate with. When a family member chooses something different their decisions are fought overtly and covertly and in most cases sabotaged. This is another formula for rebellion

The stronghold of pride

This families have a false sense of importance, mostly because of past glory of one of their members. People married into this families from a ‘lower status family’ never fit in, they will always feel like outsiders. Unhealthy family pride is destructive, because it gives the young ones in this families a false sense of entitlement, they therefore use the family name as a shortcut to get ahead in life.

The irony is that the false sense of comfort that is derived by unhealthy pride makes this family to stagnate, because pride blinds people to the need to make progress. It is actually what leads to a fall from grace, because prideful people are not able to receive correction.

The stronghold of occultism

The stronghold of greed/competition

The stronghold of shame

The stronghold of fear

The stronghold of hate

The stronghold of Ahab

The stronghold of Polygamy

The stronghold of Unbelieve

The stronghold of codependency

The stronghold of carnality